COUPLES THERAPY
DEEPER CONNECTION WITH THE GOTTMAN METHOD
The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy is a scientifically grounded approach designed to help couples build stronger, more connected relationships. Developed by Drs. John and Julie Schwartz Gottman, this couples therapy approach offers practical, research-based tools to enhance communication, deepen emotional intimacy, and navigate conflict with greater understanding and care. By addressing unhelpful patterns and fostering trust, respect, and closeness, the Gottman Method empowers couples to create a solid foundation for lasting relationship success.
Approach to
Couples Therapy
Over the years, I’ve seen that when partners get caught up in proving their point, meaningful communication tends to shut down. My approach to couples therapy focuses on helping each person express what’s underneath the conflict — their hopes, fears, and needs — so conversations become pathways to understanding rather than arguments to win. When couples learn to listen with empathy and respond with care, they often rediscover a sense of closeness that allows their relationship to heal and grow stronger.
I’m currently one of only three psychologists in BC with Level 3 training in the Gottman Method. Combined with my background as a trauma therapist, this allows me to offer a well-rounded and informed approach to couples work. Sessions are billed individually, so there’s no need to commit to a package or pay upfront. While every couple is different, those who experience the most meaningful change typically attend at least 10 sessions, with noticeable progress often emerging around sessions 5 to 8.
HERE’S WHAT WE’LL DO TOGETHER
Develop healthier communication patterns and effective conflict management strategies to foster understanding and reduce misunderstandings during disagreements.
Navigate and cope with life changes, such as career shifts, having a baby, or other significant life events, in a way that strengthens the relationship rather than causes strain.
Cultivate a stronger emotional and physical connection by exploring each partner's needs, desires, and vulnerabilities, ultimately fostering a deeper sense of closeness and trust.
Learn how to establish and honour personal boundaries within the relationship, ensuring both partners feel valued, respected, and safe in their interactions.
Address and work through previous conflicts or unresolved issues that have lingered, providing an opportunity for healing and growth in the relationship.
The Phases of Gottman Method Couples Therapy
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Before we begin therapy, we’ll spend the first few sessions getting a comprehensive understanding of your relationship. This structured assessment helps set the foundation for effective, customized work.
Here’s what to expect:
Session 1: Joint Meeting
We meet together to explore your relationship history, areas of strength, and current challenges.Online Assessment: Gottman Relationship Checkup
You'll complete a detailed, research-based questionnaire designed to highlight your relationship's strengths and areas for growth.Session 2: Individual Sessions
Each of you will have a private, one-on-one session to share your personal perspective and background.Session 3: Feedback and Planning
I bring everything together—what we've discussed and what the assessment reveals—and provide tailored feedback along with a personalized plan for therapy.
This thoughtful start ensures our work together is focused, collaborative, and grounded in evidence-based insight.
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After the assessment phase, regular therapy sessions begin. These are tailored to your goals and may include:
Improving communication and conflict management
Strengthening friendship and emotional connection
Rebuilding trust and intimacy
Creating shared meaning and long-term vision
Most couples attend between 10 to 20 sessions, though some may benefit from more or fewer depending on their needs.
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As we approach the final stages of therapy, we focus on maintaining the progress you've made and ensuring lasting success in your relationship.
Reinforcing Skills
We review and strengthen the tools and communication strategies you’ve learned throughout therapy.Deepening Connection
Focus on building even greater emotional intimacy and trust.Anticipating Challenges
We identify potential stressors and life changes that could affect your relationship.Creating a Long-Term Plan
Together, we develop strategies to navigate future challenges and maintain the positive changes you’ve made.
This phase helps you build confidence and resilience to keep your relationship thriving long after therapy.
Experience the Difference:
Why Choose a Couples Therapist with Level 3 Gottman Therapy Training?
The Gottman Method offers a tiered training system for therapists, with Level 1, Level 2, and Level 3 training representing different levels of expertise and skill in using the method. Here's a breakdown of the key differences:
Level 1 Trained Couples Therapist
Introductory knowledge of the method: Focusing on basic techniques to assess communication and conflict dynamics.
Level 2 Trained Couples Therapist
Advanced training: Trained to improve communication, handle complex issues, and enhance emotional connection.
Level 3 Trained Couples Therapist
Mastery of the method: Handling severe relational dysfunction, including trauma, and offering individualized treatment.
Note: Finding the right couples therapist can feel overwhelming—especially when you're already dealing with relationship stress. It’s important to know that not every therapist who offers couples counselling has the specific training or experience to truly help. Without that foundation, therapy can stall—or even intensify conflict. Working with a psychologist who understands both mental health and relationship dynamics can make a big difference, offering real tools for lasting change.
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