COUPLES THERAPY

DEEPER CONNECTION WITH THE GOTTMAN METHOD

The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy is a scientifically grounded approach designed to help couples build stronger, more connected relationships. Developed by Drs. John and Julie Schwartz Gottman, this couples therapy approach offers practical, research-based tools to enhance communication, deepen emotional intimacy, and navigate conflict with greater understanding and care. By addressing unhelpful patterns and fostering trust, respect, and closeness, the Gottman Method empowers couples to create a solid foundation for lasting relationship success.

Approach to

Couples Therapy

Unlike many couples therapists in Vancouver and across BC, I’ve found that focusing on who’s right and who’s wrong only creates more frustration and distance. Instead, the most effective couples therapy helps partners move beyond finding fault and toward real connection — where both people feel truly heard and understood. By guiding couples to address their challenges in a constructive and respectful manner, they can build deeper understanding and create lasting, positive change in their relationship.

I’m currently one of only three psychologists in BC with Level 3 training in the Gottman Method. Combined with my background as a trauma therapist, this allows me to offer a well-rounded and informed approach to couples work. Sessions are billed individually, so there’s no need to commit to a package or pay upfront. While every couple is different, those who experience the most meaningful change typically attend at least 10 sessions, with noticeable progress often emerging around session 5.

HERE’S WHAT WE’LL DO TOGETHER

Develop healthier communication patterns and effective conflict management strategies to foster understanding and reduce misunderstandings during disagreements.

Navigate and cope with life changes, such as career shifts, having a baby, or other significant life events, in a way that strengthens the relationship rather than causes strain.

Cultivate a stronger emotional and physical connection by exploring each partner's needs, desires, and vulnerabilities, ultimately fostering a deeper sense of closeness and trust.

Learn how to establish and honour personal boundaries within the relationship, ensuring both partners feel valued, respected, and safe in their interactions.

Address and work through previous conflicts or unresolved issues that have lingered, providing an opportunity for healing and growth in the relationship.

The Phases of Gottman Method Couples Therapy

  • Before we begin therapy, we’ll spend the first few sessions getting a comprehensive understanding of your relationship. This structured assessment helps set the foundation for effective, customized work.

    Here’s what to expect:

    • Session 1: Joint Meeting
      We meet together to explore your relationship history, areas of strength, and current challenges.

    • Session 2: Individual Sessions
      Each of you will have a private, one-on-one session to share your personal perspective and background.

    • Online Assessment: Gottman Relationship Checkup
      You'll complete a detailed, research-based questionnaire designed to highlight your relationship's strengths and areas for growth.

    • Session 3: Feedback and Planning
      I bring everything together—what we've discussed and what the assessment reveals—and provide tailored feedback along with a personalized plan for therapy.

    This thoughtful start ensures our work together is focused, collaborative, and grounded in evidence-based insight.

  • After the assessment phase, regular therapy sessions begin. These are tailored to your goals and may include:

    • Improving communication and conflict management

    • Strengthening friendship and emotional connection

    • Rebuilding trust and intimacy

    • Creating shared meaning and long-term vision

    Most couples attend between 10 to 20 sessions, though some may benefit from more or fewer depending on their needs.

  • As we approach the final stages of therapy, we focus on maintaining the progress you've made and ensuring lasting success in your relationship.

    • Reinforcing Skills
      We review and strengthen the tools and communication strategies you’ve learned throughout therapy.

    • Deepening Connection
      Focus on building even greater emotional intimacy and trust.

    • Anticipating Challenges
      We identify potential stressors and life changes that could affect your relationship.

    • Creating a Long-Term Plan
      Together, we develop strategies to navigate future challenges and maintain the positive changes you’ve made.

    This phase helps you build confidence and resilience to keep your relationship thriving long after therapy.

Experience the Difference:

Why Choose a Couples Therapist with Level 3 Gottman Therapy Training?

The Gottman Method offers a tiered training system for therapists, with Level 1, Level 2, and Level 3 training representing different levels of expertise and skill in using the method. Here's a breakdown of the key differences:

Level 1 Trained Couples Therapist

Introductory knowledge of the method: Focusing on basic techniques to assess communication and conflict dynamics.

Level 2 Trained Couples Therapist

Advanced training: Trained to improve communication, handle complex issues, and enhance emotional connection.

Level 3 Trained Couples Therapist

Mastery of the method: Handling severe relational dysfunction, including trauma, and offering individualized treatment.

Note: Finding the right couples therapist can feel overwhelming—especially when you're already dealing with relationship stress. It’s important to know that not every therapist who offers couples counselling has the specific training or experience to truly help. Without that foundation, therapy can stall—or even intensify conflict. Working with a psychologist who understands both mental health and relationship dynamics can make a big difference, offering real tools for lasting change.

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